Raising Healthy Christian Men

Livno, Bosnia

Today, it is not easy to raise a healthy Christian man. After fifteen years, most parents have handed down significant flaws to their boys.  And, many feel out of touch with the decisions their sons continue to make.  Fathers and mothers, from all classes, struggle. If it is not gang violence in our cities, it is substance addiction in the burbs.  Somewhere in the middle, the average mother, who loves her honors son, hopes he feels like more than a proud shelf of achievements.  And, if fathers are happy with their successful corporate sons, they should take a second look.  He is probably not free.  It is the boys who have gone through significant crises that end up truly thriving.  But even our diamonds in the rough seem lost without a map in a trackless desert.

What if mothers and fathers did not have to raise a man alone?  What if the body of Christ could help? What if our church found a way to connect our young men with the influence and experience of our elders? What if we were more proactive, as a community, offering our young Christian men a vision of manhood during an undeniable experience of Christian formation?  What if we could trust that God was transforming our sons’ deepest scars into gifts for the community?

2 thoughts on “Raising Healthy Christian Men”

  1. Keith– we are in need of first generation mentors who can rise up with risky initiative to “Father” an increasingly fatherless generation.

    what do you think it means at the end of the old testament when the prophet says of the messiah– or at least of the forerunner– he will turn the hearts of the fathers to the sons??

    1. Hey JD,

      This is so true. It is interesting that the OT and Gabriel (about John the Baptist), seem to think that reconciling Father’s to sons is God’s main work. I’d love to see an article about it. But Jesus and the Early Church seem to take a turn, “I am not here to bring peace but a sword.” Then Paul talks a lot about spiritual sonship (like with Timothy). So my best guess is that we’re seeing a New Creation theme, and Jesus is telling us as a body to play the roles of fathers until all sons are reconciled to their earthly fathers.

      Good insights. I will have to keep my eyes open for this over the next few years.

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