Jesus was not always a badass. Truth and Grace incarnate is not the nickname any followers would give to a rogue vigilante. Nor was he the mild shepherd that others imagine. He was the prime example of the fully human true man. And having studied Jesus these last ten years of my life, I have concluded from his image that true men are healers: filled with life and laughter, grace and truth, in touch with poverty and grief, and bursting with desire to cultivate intimacy with the Father. Jesus left his mother, embodied a fierce compassion, and stood up wisely and decisively against injustice. We must wisely reject the anemic, sentimental and emotive definitions of manhood propagated across the airwaves by experts of male psychology. And we must seriously question the attempt to cajole men to bear their souls to one another with sobs so that they can harden their resolve to keep their promises.
We must first recognize that despite our culture and its averseness to Christ-likeness, God is busy using every day experiences, success, failures and crises to for Christ-like men all across our land. We must recognize it will take a lifetime for a man to reach this destiny. Then we must see Jesus’ example clearly to know something of what God is doing. I am not sure if we are ready for the implications of Christ-like manhood. Women stand to loose their easily placated husbands, mothers their little boys, and father’s their own managed self-image. The risks are high, but the cost is even greater if we cannot soon find a Christ-vision and practice for a generation of men who are grasping for manhood yet blind to its pathway.