In honor of the coming new year, I am posting six of my most popular posts from this last year. I hope you enjoy the throwback:
#1: “Hot Christian Sex.”
I read an article yesterday entitled: How Christians Spoil Sex. The editorial was actually reviewing another article, which was promoting hot Christian sex. The CNN reviewer gave it another twist by highlighting the ways Christianity (or sick Christianity) ruins our chance (perhaps for all of us) to experience erotic collisions.
Maybe I am not hearing the conversation right. But I wonder why nobody is making this point: maybe the cultural pressure for hot sex is what is spoiling it. Watch ten movies. The majority of them will depict hot sex. The majority of our nation, I think it is fair to say, is likely thinking right now about hot sex. We’ve pumped our eros full of steroids and blame religion for holding us back. And then we go after it (hot sex) and realize that the pursuit of it usually ruins us.
There is no question that forms of Christianity have implanted within us an allergy against anything sexual. It is also true that forms of Christianity have downplayed our bodies. But I don’t think it is helpful to anyone if Christians carry the “Christians can have hot sex too” banner.
We should be saying things like: Christians don’t treat others like objects through which we can get hot sex. Christians revere the image of God in each person. Instead of a neurotic search after passionate love-making, we should be saying: Christians experience the heights of ecstatic union with their lovers amidst the earthiness of our inhibitions and awkward but beautiful bodies and through a transforming patience harnessed upon average experiences.
Vibrancy for a married couple depends on a robust and healthy sex life. Vibrancy is not dependent upon hot sex, though sometimes, as a married Christian, you find your way there.